 Towards & Away Values 
The past few weeks was a great time of inner contemplation and revelation for me. Most significantly, after hearing Adam speak about Values at POE 19 a few days ago, I started to list out mine and this began a journey of reflection on how things had been for me in the past 25 yrs.
Basically, my top 3 Towards Values are
1) Winning 2) Love 3) Excellence.
This means that I naturally do things to fulfill these 3 criteria. They are important to me perhaps due to the circumstances I grew up in, or maybe I was born with them. Nevertheless, I enjoy winning, receiving and giving love, and I desire to become the best in what I do.
Unfortunately, values sometimes contradict and sabotage each other. At times I dare not champion what I believe is right because I do not want to hurt the feelings of people. At times when I have the chance, I dare not shine and show my brillance because it might make others look at me differently. The contradictions is tormenting sometimes, and I think all of us have that some time or another.
My top 3 Away from Values are
1) Being Weak or Lousy 2) Losing 3) Hurt
Simply speaking, I hate to look weak, lose, and be hurt. And at times, I will do whatever it takes to avoid being in situations that make me face feel them. While they serve to make me take steps to become stronger, they also deprive me of many opportunities. Come to think of it, I seem to have missed out on lots of self training and practice due to these egoistic reasons.
Perhaps they explain why I am still small and insignificant at this point of time. Perhaps it is also some of my opposing beliefs and silly thinking that needs to be challenged, destroyed or transformed, so that they can complement with who I am on the inside.
At the same time, I also feel very powerful and complete, but it only comes out at times. Ah life is so interesting. With so many things on the outside and inside to conquer, love, and make shinier, each day can be so fulfilling.
Ah yes, and more action and less talk! 
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